Good guys, indeed good people, still exist

Women are always prey to the male specie, hunters I’ll call them. Men on the other hand seem many times to be immune of emotions aroused by women, and I wonder why but, whatever feelings they might have had for a babe dies almost immediately after they get them in bed. This is however a school of thought that is brought forth from the rule of generalization that all guys are the same and only chase after a girl because of the sexual enjoyment. This has therefore caused a huge stumbling block for the good guys who are looking for a good lady to spend the rest of their lives with. I would love to really be explicit on this but I’ll stop here.

I will however tell you about a personal experience I had with a good guy and when I say a good guy, I mean one that is not conceited and has no ulterior motive for his kind actions.

Here goes……

I was coming back from a rehearsal at about 6:30am. It was a youth choir rehearsal so there were not a lot of people around to help me out of the church to the bus stop so I decided to walk the distance. All I had in my head was to get home as soon as I could so I could sleep. With that in mind, I hurried the girl walking with me and we started walking briskly, I was so unconscious of the things happening around me, I totally ignored the car I saw leaving the church premises the same time we were leaving.

We walked a little distance from the church when I saw the car again, it stopped beside us this time. The man behind the wheels was muttering something but I couldn’t make out what he was saying so I kept going. The girl I was walking with however understood him but for some reason, urged me to ignore him so we walked on. The car stopped again, this time, in front of us. The girl again said, ‘don’t mind him jor let’s go’ by her response I actually thought he was a bad guy but his persistence made me realize that he just wanted to give us a lift. Despite the fact that I don’t normally do free rides for some reason I just aggressively told the girl ‘Let him help us na!’ so I moved towards the car. He opened the front passenger door and asked

‘Where are you going?

I said ‘Eeemmm if you can just get us to the bus stop-‘

He cut in ‘eh en, where are you going?’

I said ‘She’s going to Ikeja but I’m going to Berger’

He said ‘You’re going my way, come in. The Berger lady, come sit in front, Ikeja, get in the back… Seatbelts please’

After we got in, I strapped myself, he drove off. He dropped the Ikeja lady at the bus stop then said,

’Relax, I won’t kidnap you’ he said...lol…that helped! cos I was freaking scared. I actually wanted to give the girl my phone number so if anything happened to me, people would be able to trace the guy or me lol…there was however no time for that. So it was me, the man and God but after he said he wasn’t gonna kidnap me, I just had a reassuring that I was okay.

Then we started talking about various topics from music to the then ASUU strike to the reason he was giving me a lift. He told me as he sighted us in the church, God told him that one of us was going his way and that was why he offered to give us a lift. He also told me that he had told God that if He gave him a car, he would convert it into a free cab to give people lifts and that’s what he has been doing. This was the first time I was hearing something like this, I was shocked!

What further shocked me was that this man obeyed the traffic light at about quarter to seven in the morning, even though there were no lasma officials around. Forget that story of every Nigerian is corrupt o, there are some people who have taken stands like Daniel, Joseph, the three Hebrew boys…I mean I was just waiting for him to disobey the traffic light but he didn’t. That was an evidence to buttress his story.

As we continued chatting again, he asked ‘Where exactly are you going?’ I hadn’t learned from the first experience, I was still beating about the bush but I told him reluctantly and he asked for a few more descriptions and before I knew it, he was making a turn that showed he was taking me home. I was so shocked! As we drove on, I got to know that he lives a little distance away from my house, actually knows one of my neighbors and he has a lot of friends around my area so it wasn’t really difficult for him to locate the place.

Before my very eyes, he stopped in front of my house. I thought he was going to act like other men and ask for my pin or phone number or some other means of contacting me but he didn’t, he didn’t even ask for my name. I had to offer my name and ask for his, He told me his name but I won’t tell you though I don’t want my crazy friends doing some profiling on him so they won’t abuse his selflessness lol… and he explained that he doesn’t ask for the names of the people he helps so they don’t think there’s any other reason he’s helping them but for helping sake.

I was speechless. I was awed at the whole incident. My friend Nike said he helped ‘cos I’m peculiar but I know it’s not totally about that but it’s also about a man in his early or late thirties availing himself to be used by God as an example of how Christians should act- selflessly and not expecting anything in return- like he said and like the Bible says doing something with your right hand without your left hand being aware of it.

This is my very first good experience of selfless service from an extreme stranger who happens to be a guy. It has changed my thinking about a lot of things especially about all guys being the same. In my dear friend ‘Deoye’s words

“Even if two guys are assholes (pardon my French), they are assholes in different ways…there’s a general pattern of behavior but there’s also a unique‘personality’ –good or bad….so I laugh when I hear peeps say ‘all men are the same’ it’s a crime of generalization and we are all guilty.”

Many friends hang around you because of what you can offer them, man is naturally selfish and opportunistic. In ‘Deoye’s words,

‘Everyone is an opportunist…peeps just tend to carry it into all they do”

I am not saying I’m not part of these selfish and opportunistic people or those who make wrong generalization but I can say that I’m working on it. And by working on it I also mean I desire to be a good and selfless person so I make a conscious effort to hit that mark even though I fall short several times. Like it’s been really hard presently but I’m making a conscious effort to be selfless and to be selfless joyfully without murmuring or being compelled to be selfless.

I dare someone today to stop to care for someone else.

I dare someone to look away from their friends and help someone who has nothing to offer.

I dare someone to help without expecting as small as a ‘thank you’ in return.

I dare you to affect someone with even your most reflex of actions.

I dare you to unconsciously affect someone’s life.

I dare myself to be all I’ve dared you to be….

Good guys, indeed, good people still exist, desire to be one of them….

Lord please give me a selfless heart, help me obey the laws of the land and generally be a better person. Thank You so much. In Jesus' name I've prayed. Amen.